Relativity…. It’s not just physics

I like PG movies... a lot. They are fun, easy to understand, always end well, men are handsome, women are pretty and they make you feel that life is good. But the thing I like most about them is that they are clear… crystal clear, the good guy is tall, handsome, knows that he is good and ALWAYS acts accordingly. The bad guy is creepy with an awful look and a bad smell, throw in a hunched back and a few lost teeth and you get yourself a perfect diabolic character, someone to hate along the movie, he’s well oriented about his role and ALWAYS acts accordingly. So here you are, everything is clear, sharply demarcated and made easy for you without much work or figuring out on your behalf. Piece of cake, love the good guy, hate the bad guy, and we are done.
It is a shame that life doesn’t follow in the same lane, it would have been much easier. Imagine life in an improved version with no mess ups, no detours, no bad relations, no incorrect answers, no bad decisions or even no wars. Yet this is not the case, if something is worth the word hazy it is life.
Early in life it is easy, you consider your guardians to be good, everyone else is bad and that’s it. As you grow, make your own way in life and take your decisions you come to realize that life is not that way. Life is not white and black only, there are a lot of grades of gray in between. So you look at things relative to each other, someone can be considered a hero compared to another individual not because he's pure good but rather because that other individual is pure evil.
Moreover, no one is white -if such state exists- all the way. Every situation is independent and people tend to act accordingly, there are many interfering factors and personal interests that go along the way. Also you look at things from your own perspective and definitely you get biased depending on your previous experiences, preferences and -yea why not- interests, that is no fault of you that is because you are human, and that's what humans do: we see things our way, we judge them differently and we differ in opinion so we get a nasty state of relativity even nastier than physics relativity because physics doesn't have a personal opinion and doesn't have personal interests, does it??
Another point to consider is that good people are not necessarily good looking-although it would be a nice bonus if they were-. Looks can be deceiving, in fact they are deceiving most of the times as evil needs looks to get its way, so first impressions... not recommended, judging a book by its cover... bad for your health, and things are usually not the way they look.
So when you deal with life remember that good is good but not divine, evil is evil but not diabolic, once good is not always good, things are never absolute, they are prone to different points of view, and it's always... relative.

What choice do we have?

In case you didn’t know this is life, a pot of contradictories and a place to get lost. But most importantly this is life where you have to make your own choices.

Life -as you may have noticed- is like a maze, it’s a series of linked cross roads that can eventually lead you to one “state” or the exact opposite, and it all depends on your choices. And the fun part about all this is that you don’t have the luxury of assessing your choices the moment you make them, you have to find out the hard way. Yet there are some “signs” along the way that may help you decide, and if you are smart you can read this signs to reach whatever that you are trying to achieve because -newsflash- you have one life and one chance to make this work. Some other times when you come to a cross road and you think it is time to choose you find yourself drifted in one way for some reason that is out of your hand. Initially you have no choice but to go with the flow, but what about later??? And what about the times when you get to make the choice but things don’t go along quite well???

I guess this leaves us with two rather unpleasant situations to talk about, in one of them you are standing in the cross road not knowing which way to go, in the other one you are already half way to a goal that you are not sure that it is yours.

So what do you do in crossroads??? Do you trust your guts??? Do you weigh pros and cons??? Do you just jump in??? Do you avoid taking decisions for yourself and let someone else to do it for you??? My personal experience tells me…. nothing. Being my age I didn’t really have much of experience in my life... yet.  Only once did I face a major crossroad, and –to put it in a less harsh way- I got some advice and it turned out great. Though I don’t regret the choice, I wish I could have been able to take it on my own. I doubt that this will work for everyone out there cause this needs close people who are both faithful and with good sense of judgment and let’s face it those are not the kind of quality that are abundant out in the real world.

What about half the way??? It is really a harsh feeling when you aren’t sure that you are pursuing your dream and it seems that all your work was a waste of effort and time and anything else you invest in this dream will be a kind foolishness; however letting go of what have been achieved is the absolute dumbness. Let me tell you something, if I made it this far, I’d better take it all the way to the end. But again it’s just me.

If you reach these lines and you didn’t find an answer to your question... that is completely normal because what I am offering here is not an answer to a question, it’s merely a personal experience that is not necessarily true or valid for everyone out there. If you are capable of choosing for yourself that’s fine, if you depend on others advice that’s not bad. If you stop midway and turn back that’s no problem, if you take it all way to the ends it’s ok. However you must always remember that it is not only a decision made, it is also fate.

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